Bridge of Success
The Bridge Built!
Bridge of Communication with Transactional Analysis!
Bridge of Successful Relationships!
Although at first glance these propositional phrases provide foreseeable ideas, the thing I want to share with you in this post is their much deeper meanings. As Rumi said; “O heart, every rope that breaks is tied up if desired, but in the place where it is tied, the knot remains. Know your past well, so that you can get your feet on the ground in the future. Don’t forget where you came from, so you won’t be surprised where you are going.”
Where did you come from, where will you go?
Have you really understood everything?
IT’S TIME TO MAKE PEACE WITH YOURSELF AND YOUR LOVED ONES!
THE END OF CONFLICTS, THE TRANSITION TO HAPPINESS!
In all relationships of our lives, a person wants to get his/ her point across, be understood, and feel that he/ she is being understood. As I have stated in many of my posts I have written so far along with my spoken discourses, “CHANGE YOUR STORY, CHANGE YOUR LIFE!“ The game-changing point in the sentence is individual sensitivity to expression, that is, successful communication.
What is your story?
How do you tell your story?
What are your magnet stories with people in your relationships?
It’s not always what you do, it’s how you do it that makes the difference. Can you apply the care you put in the things you do with love to your communication? Through the teachings of Transactional Analysis communication theory, which I consider mandatory to be in the groundwork of the Coaching performance session, I will tell you how to make a difference, and that it can be possible with communication mastery by mentoring with sessions and dialogue sections.
In coaching, the past is always considered an experience, the goal is to be here and now, then with the clarity and power in hand, the future is projected, the decision is made, and the first action step is taken.
But at the point where we are the coachee in the coaching session, we also need to put an end to old issues to make room for the new ones in our lives. Since the old ones are a set of emotions, beliefs, and knowledge of awareness; they can sometimes come from extremely deep layers as we move towards the dream we want to reach, and none of us want that. The basic need in coaching is to reach the truth, the coach always seeks the truth.
Awareness is an “AHA !” seeker. Here, the teachings of Gestalt Theory are impeccable. This reality and clarity will free us from the old and the past. What we will leave behind, emotions that turn into an addiction, our habits, our false belief patterns, the thoughts that drag us to inertia, and every situation that we cannot determine the limits of…
We cannot move forward with faulty logic, thoughts, and perspectives that have expired. Although it is difficult to break out of habits, we need to prepare for the new one and take action for ourselves. In a sense, it is like breathing out in an ocean where we are drowning and creating a different momentum in an instant, taking a fresh, renewed deep breath with plenty of oxygen and filling with life again.
Changing perspective with a strong“ AHA!” moment and developing a new thinking approach are quite easy depending on the success of the coach with the coaching session. However, it is not easy for the coachee to break the routine, and sometimes it is not easy to break the routines that do not even belong to us, and this means re-existence. After all, isn’t the process of human existence a story of spiritual, mental, and physical development?
We can achieve real goals by renewing our mental attitude. No matter how similar the events we experience are, the attitude and behavior in our approach to them should be different. We are responsible for every word that comes out of our mouths and every action. With our awareness of novelty, we can spread our wings, build solid bridges, and move from end to end with joy and happiness.
In our session, which started with my coachee expressing that he was unsuccessful in all her relationships with his family, work environment, social friends, children, spouse, and himself, I asked my coachee to describe the feeling of failure. “…I cannot break my chains, I am in a garden with an open door, stuck in situations governed by my mind, I cannot move.” He said.
In the awareness he experienced with the Gestalt and TA theories and the communication bridge he established with himself, he said, “…the calculations, books, analytical intelligence, tactics won’t do, I have to listen to the voice of my heart, find my way and continue…“
Neruda says; “when good people they are offended, they are withdrawn and the outsiders looking in think they are know-it-alls.” A quote from Dostoevsky; “people resort to their prejudices when they cannot figure you out.” Tolstoy said: “the life you always complain about, perhaps, it is someone else’s dream.”
Oscar Wilde said; “the thing that wears people out the most is their good intentions.”
A quote that summarizes from Oslo; “do not break the wings of someone who is fluttering about for you, the day will come you will need that angel…“
I heard it in a TV show; “everybody is aware of everything and nobody did anything by mistake.”
The words of a writer that I cannot remember now; “If people are not told their faults, they will think their faults are a merit.”
William Shakespeare said, “Talk frankly, because the right people like clarity.”
Well famous philosopher, how would you describe the state of communication in your relationships that came to a dead-end?