Dialogues are Updated with Transactional Analysis
People want to internalize the information and experiences they gain, but expanding an analysis depends on making the correct assessment. Take a break today to give yourself time. As always, let’s start with presence. Give yourself permission to reach an inner, higher power of consciousness.
Be eager and willing for yourself no matter what happens. When you are on your way to discovering what is good for you, what heals you, what you actually need to do, and when you become aware of them, you will reach success quickly.
Through Coaching with Transactional Analysis, you will realize how precious and significant Coaching is to you. This awareness will make you even stronger. Think about how you feel and what you experience as you move on a path of change, transformation, and development. Go inward here and now, remembering your responsibility to yourself.
Coaching tools with TA will answer many of the questions in your mind. I can say that you can find very powerful, healing information. If you listen to yourself, you will discover many wonderful things. With your coach, you will listen to yourself in a healthy way. You will have a lot of equipment that will clear the way for yourself.
You will look at your personal equipment from a distinct perspective. You will become clear on wherever it is that you have deceived yourself and you will know how to transform it. You will find answers to your “HOW?” questions when you receive the support of coaching with you on the way to success.
Inner Parent, Inner Adult, Inner Child
In your communications, there is a state of hearing yourself, or the heart hearing and filtering what comes out of your mind, saying “this does not feel right, it does not feel good”, that is a strong awareness. It opens new doors to empowering yourself. For example, you will realize the invisible reasons behind the aggressive attitudes and the accusations made such as you cannot do it, you cannot succeed, you cannot handle it, you are not good enough in this regard.
For example; as you make a start saying “I will achieve these, you will see, I will take revenge on you for what you said, it is always safer for me to hide my feelings, what other people think of me is important to me and I pay great attention to this when making my decisions, not doing what absolutely needs to be done makes me intolerant, I want to find a functional solution for everyone”, you will recognize the state deep into that attitude you have at the center of the situation. With these two questions, I would like you to make some more observations.
What are the words, attitudes, and accusations I display from my own reality, my inner world, to myself and my loved ones, to whom I convey my feelings?
What are the words, attitudes, accusations, approaches coming from my loved ones, from the people to whom I convey my feelings about from their own reality and inner world?
The power and success you will achieve by organizing this place is Satisfaction in healthy relationships provided by absolute communication. Because taking the outer strength and gathering your inner strength means relieving and understanding the areas that you suppress. You completely balance your internal states that you are fighting against, whoever and whatever that ignores you, excludes you, does not value your potential.
For example; are the goals you set goals for your inner voices saying “do I take things too seriously, do I read too much into everything, am I slowing down the processes I am going through myself” or for making yourself accepted, approved of, being appreciated, validated and for being recognized?
When you look within yourself in the background; how ready are you for these? How ready are you for a real exchange with the other person, both by sacrificing yourself and sometimes giving yourself up to be intertwined with any relationship?
Whether you are aware of it or not, communication in any relationship is not a one-sided flow. I am talking about a flow on both sides. The reason for the complexity of this process is that you have not been able to determine your life position and this is an indication that you are not aware of your inner state at the moment.
- What is the truth that you are ignoring?
- How does it make you feel to take the shape of the container you are in?
- What does it bring you?
- What does it teach you?
- What form have you experienced so far?
- Have you observed how you have done so far?
- Have you reviewed your teachings?
- How were you guided?
- What have you learned?
Instead of contemplating for hours, you can find the answers you need with the transactional analysis coaching test. When the mind gets out of control, it creates uncontrollable things that will complicate the process, right?
I am here so you don’t do this to yourself! For example; I hear your inner voice saying “how can I protect my values while I am struggling with this? Things I dream of might get worse later on, I may not find what I expected, my peace may be disturbed, I might be exposed to people trying to manage me…”.
How can you bring peace to this war inside of you that you don’t realize?
Peace is possible by being able to communicate without getting lost in simple details, without letting the little things drag you into disaster scenarios, by realizing and transforming the ego state that is controlling you at that moment. You can have a world that enables you to experience yourself without losing sight of the details of reality, of what is real, and where you can open yourself up without being restricted. Keep your mind clear, I am with you! Please pay attention to what you are paying attention to right now!
How to share a collaboration, a partnership, share a space, share a friendship, share a life, and a relationship? How would you like it to be? I am asking what you want, not what is necessary or what needs to be.
Realize that the unwanted situations that you experience in your relationships are, in fact, the prototypes of the internal situations you experience with the world!
- What am I afraid of in life?
- What am I avoiding in life?
- What are my biggest worries in life?
If you notice these and listen to your answers, it will be possible to get away from the breaking points in your relationships. This awareness is an important point in order to reach a more balanced, healthier, and more deliberate form. In communications; when we examine the communication existing in the types of relationships in which the parties are willing to move forward, the assessments of the transactional analysis are quite analytical. By separating the spaces from each other, “The right thing is ensured to flow in the Right place” in communications.
Let’s gain a springy momentum upward!
After a process in which we withdraw and turn inward, gaining strength and self-confidence takes place very quickly. The process of growing oneself like a plane tree, reaching that state of great strength, and the state of development takes shape in this way. It will open up from the inside out as a sense of trust. And this will bring joy and laughter.
Even when everything is going well in your life, the anxiety you have been keeping active inside will now come to an end. When you come across accusations, attitudes, and words that you do not want, on the issues where you have conditioned yourself to this day, and when you notice your states, you immediately put yourself at the center of the solution path.
Because the only person who is put in the center in coaching sessions is the person him/ herself. In coaching, the subject of the session is not about others. You are the center of what others have made you experience and likewise, you are the center of what you have made others experience. From here, you will find a way to move forward.
You are getting confirmation of what is inside from outside, please come to the realization of this now!
You immediately receive confirmation from the outside when you consider yourself small, inadequate, vulnerable, aggressive, when you indulge self-pity, etc. Because whatever is your inner ego state at the time, you reflect the way of communication of that ego state. For example;” See, that’s what I was thinking, and that’s what he said” does this sentence sound familiar? Transactional analysis and coaching practices create an analysis laboratory where you improve your own conditioning in sessions. So, how do you get all this together?
Destroy yourself! Come to the PRESENT! Run after your dreams! The you who is destroyed is not the you who should be standing! As I said in my previous blog post, the crusted layer on the outside is being destroyed like the shedding of a snake’s skin!
Whatever it is that you do not want to see inside, makes you stare outside! Don’t worry about not repeating old patterns from now on. A hasty, panicked, rushing mind always feels more restless. Give yourself permission to experience the new state.
Because now the dialogues with TA are updated! The form change process begins! You will see why it is so precious to turn inward! All the judgments you make come from within you, and the areas you follow with your life positions determine your whole life.
Now, let’s make an application together for the assessment of our current situation, where we will move from the inside to the outside.
It is in your hands to ensure that you can live the life you want to live by establishing effective communication, but you may want to get a coaching session from me on how to achieve this.
