We seize the opportunities with coaching
Birds are flying, opportunities are getting away.
Who says fairy tales are only for children? Once upon a time;
“A hunter sets a trap. The poor bird is trapped, caught by trickery. The bird says to the hunter who catches it;
‘O master, you have eaten sheep and cattle many times in your life, and you have sacrificed camels many times, too. You will never be sated with my meat when you are not even sated with their meat. If you release me, I will give you three pieces of advice. You can make up your mind according to my advice. I will give the first of these three advices while I am still in your hands. I will say the second one when I land on that roof and the third one when I land on that tree. You will be very happy to hear these three advices, believe me.”
The hunter accepts the bird’s offer out of sheer curiosity. The advice the bird will give while it is in the hunter’s hand is:
“Don’t believe anyone who talks of the improbable.” Then the hunter, who cannot make sense of what he hears, frees the bird. The bird flies away and lands on the roof of the house. There it gives the second advice.
“Don’t be upset about a missed opportunity. Do not whine and worry.” Then, the hunter likes what he hears, and he begins to think about it.
After the bird gives the second advice, it flies and lands on the branch of the tree before the third advice and it says, “I had a very precious pearl weighing 10 dirhams in my stomach. That pearl would have made you and your children rich. Unfortunately, it was not meant to be.”
When the hunter hears the birds saying these words, he begins to whine and wail. The bird says,
“Didn’t I tell you not to worry about anything that got away from you?
You lost the pearl, why do you beat yourself up about it?
Did you not understand the advice I gave you?
I told you that no matter who talks to you of the improbable, do not believe it. My whole weight is not three dirhams. How can I have a 10 dirham pearl in my stomach?”
Upon these words, the hunter seems to come to his senses a little.
“Now give me your third piece of advice,” he says. The bird says, “As if you have kept the two advices I gave you, you are asking me for the third advice. Giving advice to a person who has fallen asleep is no different from planting seeds in a wasteland. The tear of stupidity and ignorance can never be patched, and flies away…“
Are you the hunter, the bird or the reader of the fairy tale?
THE AWAKENING THAT COMES WITH COACHING!
Make sure that you are not willing to settle for unhappiness just because you are used to it. Addictions are not only against substances or people. We can also develop addictions for the negative feelings we have. It is very important that we realize the exact depth of the space we define as the safe space or comfort space, and become clear about what emotions are contained in this space.
“What are the existing negative emotional habits that I have?” is a self-awareness question that allows us to analyze the current situation. While the first answers you will give are superficial, the answers you will have upon careful reflection are tips that allow you to deepen and reach the source. “ What are my irrepressible obsessive desires?” Listen to your answers that provide internal control of whether or not you are in an illusion bubble.
A renewal that changes your stance in life!
Breaking your old patterns will sometimes terrify you in coaching sessions, but everything that does not really serve your happiness and does not lead you to a completely fulfilled life, that you are not aware of, goes away. After that, you will become stronger through renewal. Embrace innovation and abundance!
Be willing to fill your life with the new! You don’t need a bird to come and give you advice! Don’t let a bird trick you! You don’t need to be a hunter either! When you are complete and whole with yourself in every way, your presence is an opportunity! It’s possible for you to go from states of false necessity to free will through coaching!
Recently, a client of mine shared with me a piece she read on social media. This piece, I do not know from where it was quoted, became the inspiration for my blog post.
“Horses work hard, run very fast and win the Veterans Run. They give 3 million to the owner, 250 thousand to the rider, and carrots to the horses.”
I laughed a lot when I first read this piece, which I realized as a metaphor VALENCE PERCEPTION. How do we know that we deserve the best in every way?
- What do we think we don’t deserve because of deeply ingrained beliefs?
- Maybe there are a lot of things we don’t even know how to dream about, right?
- What is in the way of our dreams?
What we will have in this life are not the rewards of our good behavior! They are the results of our feelings, thoughts, beliefs and actions.
Accept the good gracefully!
Accepting outside help is not just about you personally, it’s about allowing yourself to be helped so that you can help others through your contribution to life. I would especially like to ask our coach candidates who are on their way in the coaching profession and our clients who have applied for a coaching session to think again. How is it possible to accept gratitude yourself for the sake of the whole?
I share with you a situation that I have observed frequently in my recent coaching meetings. Many of you are in “relationships” that hurt you and cause you suffering. In this process, I recommend that you take a coaching session from a coach who has the basis of Transactional Analysis and Gestalt theory for a personal analysis about yourself.
You should realize that the role of being the chief architect of salvation for every situation you experience is entrusted to you in your life positions. With your coach’s strong and accurate questions, you will find answers that will enable everyone involved in the event to be resolved in cooperation, including yourself, with confidence in your inner voice, and with an open mind.
Remember that everything you experience, all relationships are filled with lessons of growth and development. Even though it may seem like the opposite when they are happening, let us know that we are at the core of all the events. When you find yourself in any discussion or conflict in your life relationships, your coach will be by your side to facilitate your resolution.
If you genuinely want to have grace, tolerance, peace, and healthy relationships in your life, if you are really tired of the rudeness, turbulence, and chaos around you, if you say “There is only one of me in this life and this life is mine“, good news for you; you didn’t miss out on any opportunities! You will understand when you explore your talents and strengths with your coach in your coaching session! Coaching is with you, with pleasure!
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