What We Can’t Realize and Awareness
Awareness
COACHING is a solution for everyone who is looking for a way out of their current situation to reach the desired point with the right kind of success. It allows you to manage the whole process where you can complete whatever is left unfinished in your life, turn inward, experience a powerful improvement in your life, regulate the situations that split your energy, get rid of your fears, become clear of all the confusions existing in your life, mind, heart, relationships, and move forward by redesigning your life.
What is it that I don’t realize?
If you want a solution, you will find it. You can be free from all your fears. You can let go of all the issues that you can’t tolerate, that you suffer from, that you struggle with, that don’t satisfy you, as well as the definitions you have made about these issues.
Separate the emotions you seek from the emotions you continue to feed! Put an end to areas where you are worn out. Remember that without change, there would be no butterflies.
What is it that I have not realized in my communications?
Especially in unexpected situations, we give suggestions to each other, or ourselves by having conversations.
- How aware are you of who you are in these conversations you have?
- How constructive is the language of communication we use, especially when we are experiencing very sad events with natural disasters recently?
- How well do you understand you?
- How do you come to terms with yourself?
In this post, I am leaving you powerful tips. What are the situations where you condition yourself? Now I ask you to choose one of those situations. You can put an end to it inside yourself and achieve a powerful exit from that state of being conditioned.
According to the Transactional Analysis theory, it is stated that the ego states within us affect the languages of communication and that we display an expressive attitude according to our ego state that is active in the relevant situation at that moment. The functional analysis distinguishes these ego states as,
- THE CRITICAL PARENT
- THE NURTURING PARENT
- THE FUNCTIONAL ADULT
- THE NATURAL CHILD AND THE ADAPTIVE CHILD.
When the structural and functional analysis of each ego state is examined, the interactions of the ego states between the transactions and the emerging communication states form a separate field. Their effects on our life positions essentially shape our entire lives.
There is no right, wrong, good, or bad here, each ego state manifests itself in the life spaces. Even as you are reading these lines, when you observe yourself or your environment, you can realize which ego state you are in at the relevant moment with COACHING.
Never lie, you can never trust a man, you’ll be damned if you do this, take your coat when you go out, you shouldn’t let him do that to you, I’ll do it for you, if you don’t do this I will do that, this or nothing, never forget, always …, never …, how to do this, it’s my fault, again …, it’s always like this, in the presence of grown-ups …., how will you know that, don’t …. with me again …, I will complete this work for you, you look very bad, drive carefully in the rain, don’t waste your time, when you study efficiently you can be successful, I don’t want to talk to you, I won’t do it because I don’t feel like it, oh never mind let it go, this place looks nice let’s go for a drink, ok let’s meet wherever you want, well I’ll do what you want right away, when is the deadline of the project, this world sucks, ….
Please reconsider the dialogues with the sentences we can multiply as such.
Take a situation you have encountered in life and look again. How were your nonverbal and verbal expressions? What happened? What emotional state were the parties in that dialogue?
When we look deeply from another point of view, let’s get to giving and receiving SUGGESTION!
- How do you approach yourself when talking to yourself?
- What was going on at that moment?
- How do you approach the person you are talking to?
- How would you approach him/ her now?
- What would this make you experience?
- What happens now with that which enables the realization of the difference?
What is it that I don’t realize in the flow of my life?
First, notice your definition of flow. When you say letting life flow, letting things happen, you can include COACHING, which brings the conscious power about flow, on your agenda. When you know the structure of your mind, your conscious, your subconscious, you start the flow of transforming yourself first. This is the key to transforming and restructuring your life.
It is possible to generate and influence the flow! If you look at the system of nature in the recent natural disasters we are sad about, you will realize that water flows in its course.
- Who am I?
- Where am I?
- What brings me to where I am?
- What can I do about it?
- What am I planning?
- What is it that I am not aware of in my actions?
According to the Gestalt theory integrated with coaching, even the solidity existing on the ground is active. It has a strong sensitivity in the existential structure that creates itself. In the material dimension, every object is dynamic and alive. Matter and emptiness come into existence with rapid flow. Man’s rich ability of manifestation makes sense of this.
- Then, how do you affect the flow of life?
- Do you really know where you want to go?
- A frequently used phrase, Let life flow! So what exactly does it mean to let life flow?
- Is the point you want to reach the same as the point the flow goes?
- What is your state of being in life?
- What options do you have for expressing this externally as you are creating yourself?
- How do you express yourself?
- What is your way of expression with your state of being?
- How do you reflect these in your actions?
- What is your deepest desire?
- The miracle of flow is the fact that you are the one who makes the decision. What are the experiences you choose?
- What do you choose to express and live?
- What are the aspects of life you want to experience?
- With which existence you want to experience these?
- What does life expect from you? What do you expect from life?
For years, I have been educating myself in this life and I continue to do so. Experience and knowledge don’t come into being in one day… We continue in the flow of life. We are all tested at certain times in life by the way we communicate and the actions we reflect. For example, in our communication with the people around us, if they are constantly looking for the fault in us, if they are in the way of our progress, we have difficulty in creating and living our own life flow.
Like everyone else, I have experienced more difficulties in life than most of you can imagine. At the end of the day, these challenges have helped me become a MENTOR COACH with the effect of COACHING. The information I share doesn’t come out of memorization. Coaching is the tool that offers you the guidance of your inner voice on your journey of self-knowledge and self-transformation. Coaching is the answer to the question “How do we listen to our inner voice and create the flow of life we want to live?”
In my professional roles, I am a mentor, coach, entrepreneur, trainer, writer. I use them all in my life. The experience and knowledge have developed over the course of 25 years and continue to develop. Even if you read thousands of books on coaching and get many trainings, nothing can teach what coaching and coaching session teaches. Those who can do both will succeed quickly and happily. Therefore, my advice to everyone is to experience the coaching session first and to start your coaching sessions with your clients immediately after completing the necessary trainings, and continually give sessions.
What am I not realizing in myself?
A person who is not aware of his/ her own worth, who is not aware of his/ her own potential, who is not aware of the power within him/ herself, does not love and like him/ herself. Please answer within yourself. How do you define happiness?
Actually, we are all alike, and from here, I am writing to you about the common things we all experience. We all go through “troubles” with a general definition, we experience “distresses”, we are “happy”, we fall, we get up, we grow, we improve and we continue, and we, as COACHES, do not ignore the tragedies going on in the world.
As the people who choose this profession, we aim to make an impact with hope. A master says: “It’s better to light a single candle than curse the darkness!” When you start doing something nice for yourself, when you start taking a step in the right direction, over time, you will learn to improve your flow of life.
No one can know the fires, earthquakes, and floods taking place in someone else, so we learn to live without judgment. Whether we are aware of it or not, we really are a product of our environment, so let’s try to keep nice, right-minded people around us. Let’s expand the love. “What would you do or what would I do to make you feel loved?” The answer to this question is the very foundation of our communications.
Because everyone wants to feel loved. The criteria for this are different for everyone. When you put love and understanding at the foundation with the language of communication and reflected actions, there are definitely solutions. What made me a writer is my desire to share the solutions I know with you in my book THE FUTURE STARTS TODAY. Now I ask you; what is your way of sharing the solutions you have?
Chance; is confronting opportunities preparedly. No relationship is all sunshine, but two people can share one umbrella and survive the storm together. What a beautiful sentence. It is possible for all of us to be among those who manage to share with love.
- What traits do successful people demonstrate?
- What communication characteristics do successful people confidently demonstrate?
- What really makes me happy?
- What really satisfies me?
- For example; what could be the solutions someone who likes to talk, travel, transfer information shares with your profession?
- What is your job that makes money?
- What is your job that you will do without making money?
As your travel companion, I wish you not to know but to become aware of this information I have written above. With COACHING, you can learn how to find your way around the things blocking your way. Communications produced by stored emotions are key to experiences. When we suppress the emotion, our emotions control our communications. We speak with the consciousness of emotions. Imagine what your communications would be like if you stored your current situation with joy, happiness, abundance, love, peace, respect, harmony, joyful emotions.
This life is ours, this world is ours, and it is possible for us to live in harmony with nature, in harmony with each other.
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